I would stop demeaning him with regard to him talking to his sister. She knows his maturity level. I don't want to win or tear them apart. I understand that he may call her to vent, but when he runs back and tells me how SHE feels about ME, then that's where the problem lies. I wouldn't have known how much she hates me if he didn't tell me.
I don't want this issue to break us apart because everything else in the relationship is going very good. You have no idea if she hates you. Because he said so doesn't.
She may very well side with you, and that bugs him so he tells you the opposite. We have had a few arguments about minor things since we've been dating. The only think is that he finds the needs call his sister. I don't have a problem that he vents, its that he comes back and tells me what she thinks.
No guy I've dated - even the "winners," would have tried to dump me at the roadside after midnight. And I'd have refused and asked them if they thought I was nuts or stupid if they tried. The dispute was a little mountain out of molehill in the beginning - but from what you're saying, he lacks a lot of the social skills most people pick up as they grow up.
That irritated you. Him playing silly putty with what happened irritated you more. And him showing nice gestures to next thing to strangers when he ignores you lit the match. However, that's really not the issue, is it? He's actually acting like a little kid going to mommy and asking her to finish his arguments FOR him, "here, you deal with my GF because I don't know how! Unless you want this to continue, I'd walk out the door and never look back.
If he's still this backwards at 40, I'd be walking away and NOT looking back, unless you want the relationship to actually be with his SISTER and not him, since it seems he needs her to speak for him! But I've been around her several times since we started dating and she a bit indifferent towards me. I feel like she doesn't want to get close. She's has a very bubbly personality and is very kind to others. She may hold off getting close because women don't date here brother long.
I finally got that way with my bro I would get to like her Finally, I decided it wasn't really worth over investing in them. Exactly, he can talk and vent to his sister any time he wants, but when he comes back and tells me what she thinks, true or not, it's just not mature and respectful. You're probably right. He has mentioned to me that his sister hated his ex too.
Now it's all making sense to me. The problem lies within him. Why are you still even dating this guy? He's already badmouthing you to his sister and it still should be at the stage of "I can't believe this gorgeous woman actually wants to date meeee! And the whole thing with the kissing some woman on the cheek he doesn't even know--ewwww. I mean she played it cool, but both of you were thinking W. I'd find someone a little more mature and whole lot less "I invade women's personal spaces just because I think I might maybe know them from some one-time event years before".
Sorry, but I have huge issues with having people touch, grab, kiss or otherwise get too close into my personal space and yeah I've had the guys and gals I barely know use it in an attempt to cop a feel. Not cool, not cool at all. This guy sounds mentally ill.
You would really continue dating him? This blows my mind that any woman would date a guy who behaves like this. Thank you for agreeing with me and that the whole scenario was so inappropriate! I was SO embarrassed and upset --like Mesenene posted earlier. I got irritated and then it just lit my match and I exploded!
Why would he even do that? I still keep asking myself why. No, I'm re-considering this relationship and leaning towards leaving. I've been questioning his behavior lately. He wasn't like this a few months ago. Hey, but I get it, it's still fairly new. Regarding the kissing at the wedding, I'm not sure it's that weird to kiss someone hello on the cheek at that type of event. However, it sounds like he did it with someone he barely knows.
I can't say that would have angered me or made me jealous, but it would make me question why a year-old man is so awkward. I think you overreacted by getting into a screaming match about it. That seems a bit excessive on both your parts.
And asking you to get out of the car is ridiculous, as is calling his sister in the middle of an argument. Your bf sounds pretty messed up.
I rather suspect that his sister told him some things he doesn't want to hear which were actually in your favor. Something like "you are not dumping a woman out on the street in the middle of the night.
You need to grow up little bro, take her home and work it out. Told you that his sister supposedly hates to make you feel bad and make himself feel better. Ask them to see if they could figure out what her problem is IF she wont' talk to you first.
Is this still revelant? XNicholex3 Xper 4. She was probably in general in a really pissy mood, probably PMS. I wouldn't let it bother you though. She probably is a slight bit jealous, and you didn't deserve the behavior you got from her.
If it continues, talk to her about it. So many years he and his sister live together. His sister may think she can't get brother's love any more after you show up. She is too young to accept the truth that everyone has his own family one day as well as his brother. You should try to understand her feelings and talk about what she like or dislike. Maybe this is a good way to get closer to her and ease the tension relationship between you and her.
Sign Up Now! Related Questions. Show All. Why do my mom and sister hate on my boyfriend? My boyfriend's twin hates me. Topics that are controversial can divide people no matter who they are. It will help you avoid unnecessary tension. Refrain from showing too many public displays of affection. Method 2. Find subjects that you have in common. You can mention books, movies, musicians, and board games that you are into.
Bring these tendencies up in a funny way during conversation. Ask his sister to join you on an outing. If you want to become friends, invite his sister to hang out with you and your boyfriend when you go out somewhere.
Talking to someone who has more life experience than you can be a great time to ask about things that are troubling you. Ask her opinion on dating, marriage, clothing, or something that she is an expert in. Do you have any advice on college applications or placement tests? Avoid making up any of your interests or hobbies.
While it's difficult to act naturally at first, affecting a completely different personality from the beginning is immature and misleading. Be interested about her hobbies and interests without faking your own. Method 3. However, if you sense that there is tension between you two, do your best to remove yourself from the situation and calmly discuss it with your boyfriend.
Make sure that you do not make it sound as though you are blaming his sister. See if he has any explanation for her behavior or any suggestions for the future. Did you notice that too? Keep your interactions friendly and civil any time you see her. She could slowly start to accept or even like you over time.
If his sister ever gets truly mean, you may need him to step in and help you. If the two of you have not hit it off, be friendly but brief whenever you see her. There's nothing wrong with being civil. Do your best to always keep your manners at the forefront.
In time, the two of you may improve your relationship. Whatever the case, getting things out into the open can only help your relationship. Can we talk about that? If you truly can't find anything to talk about, try to ask her about memories she has with your boyfriend when he was little. You can also ask her to show you some of her hobbies so that you can become interested in them.
Stay open and try new things to bond with your boyfriend's sister.
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